Wednesday, December 19, 2012

15-year-old Betty Ann writes:

So I really like this guy lets call him tyler me and tyler met at are mutual friends house. We have been talking for about 4 months but we just started texting all day everyday for the past 2 weeks. We started right around the time he admitted he liked me and I admitted I like him to. He invited me to this party in September and I went but we didn't get to talk that much because are friends kept interrupting us. Yesterday someone changed my relationship status on facebook and an hour after I saw it tylers status also changed and I was really mad because I didn't know who he was dating! Later last night I started talking to him and I asked him who he was dating and he said he didn't know how his status changed either. He later admitted he thought when I changed my relationship status I meant that me and him were in a relationship. So thats why he changed it... But we both changed it back to single and I really like him and I do want to date him but I'm not sure how I tell him! Btw i'm 15 and he's 17 also we live like 45 minutes away from each other...... Can you help me? 

Hi Betty Ann!

Well it seems that you have a friend who wants to make this thing happen for you. It seems they wanted to make you realize that its time to make your relationship official by changing your relationship status. Now, it may not have been the best way to go about it, but it is still sweet. Otherwise, this was an evil prank.

Either way both you and Tyler want to be together, so what's stopping you??? Nothing, to him and tell you how you feel. He obviously feels the same way. You guys are just not communicating your feelings to each other. Since you live a little ways away try to make a time to seem him and go somewhere and talk.

This should not be too hard. You have spent a significant amount of time getting to know each-other. If you are ready to call him your boyfriend let him know that when the time is right. Right now he feels disconnected. He is embarrassed and confused. So this is just a matter of talking it through the misunderstandings and communication errors.

I Hope This Helps!


I am 13 and He is 18

13-year-old Addie writes

Dear Chauntel, 

I am new to dating. Last year when I was in the 6th grade I had a crush this guy who was an 8th grader but could never seem to get his attention. Probably because i wasn't much to look at. Never have been. Unfortunately he moved away this year so for a while I didn't like anyone else. Now I'm in 7th grade and a new guy moved here this year and I really like him. Theres one BIG problem though.. He's a junior and 19 years old. I know I shouldn't like him because of the age difference but there's not a whole lot I can do about me liking him. Since I never got my 8th grade crush to work, I don't want the same thing to happen with this guy. So I need some serious help. How do I get his attention? How do I make him not care about the age difference? Do I even have a chance with a 19 year old? 

Dear Addie,

I am so glad you wrote me. At  13 there is no doubt that the idea of dating is so exciting! However, you have to keep in mind that just because it seems exciting, this does not mean that it is appropriate.

If he is 18, he is much more experienced than you are in dating. This can have negative effects. I therefore advise you to leave this situation alone, and try to find interest in a guy who is on the same level as you. You need a guy closer to your age and also new to dating.

You may ask "why?". It is very important that you take heed to my advise because this 18-year-old guy is a "man" in the eyes of the state, and he could get into a lot of trouble by pursuing a relationship with you.

Also, it won't be as much fun as you think to be with a guy who is this much more experienced than you. You want someone who you can grow with. It makes the relationship a lot easier to maintain.

I Hope This Helps!


Thursday, December 13, 2012

Fed Up With My Children's Father and Ready for a New Relationship

Lizette writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I need you help on a quite complex issue. Just realized I do-not really love my current partner, he has failed change and I have begun to realise that we simply do not belong together. I cannot stand his habit of checking in my hand bag, reading my text messages, hacking into my emails etc I feel so fed up and cannot stand this any more. The situation was so bad in the previous eight days and we separated bed rooms and in the interim i started dating someone else.

In this new relationship i had mixed feelings about quitting home because we have children and somehow my new partner thought I was not so committed so he has decided to move on. well i love him and would love to have him back but would also like a safe environment for my children. I could have lost him for good but i need guidance on how to handle this situation. I am fed up of my partner who is not willing to change at all, i foot 90% of the home bills, including paying school fees for the children and he even goes on to steal money from account. I feel rubbish cannot go on like this.

Hello Lizette,

I understand that you do not want to be with your children's father. Children alone should never be the reason that you stay in a relationship. It seems like you are pretty fed up with that situation.  What I will say is, if he is not holding his weight you should talk to him about it, and make sure that he is aware of your expectations of him, as well as his responsibilities.
If you really feel that there is no way to salvage that relationship, and you have stopped working towards it, then I would recommend couples therapy for you two. You seem like you are trying to jump into something else to feel the void of that relationship, but I wouldn't be surprised if you were still in love with your X and just using this  new "partner" as a distraction.

You are totally in the wrong for jumping into this new relationship. It is wrong on so many levels.

It is confusing for your children. Second, you should not be dating another man with your X sleeping in the other room. These decisions that you are making seem rash. You really need to start thinking this through. When you make a decision to go into another relationship, the decision is not only for you, but it is for your children too.

So, slow down. Deal with your X first, decide which way that relationship is going to go. Then take some time to get yourself on track, and ensure that your children are ok. When the time is right, you can begin searching for another relationship. This is too much too fast, just think about how you are affecting the other people in your life before you begin making hasty decisions like this again. Take it one step at a time.

I Hope This Helps!


Saturday, December 8, 2012

Did I Ask Her Out Too Early? - Ask Chauntel

Brandon writes:

Hey Chauntel,
So there is this girl I know that I love so very much. She is everything I want in a girl, good personality, humor, good looks, and im not sure if she likes me or not. So she dumped her boyfriend in September and I was like "Yes, heres my chance" So here is what she did after she dumped her bf. She would fix my coat and hit me on the shoulder when I would say a mean joke, she would laugh at all of my jokes, and she even wrestled me once for a book we both when after, and she would try and get me to play xbox with her. I was certain she liked me. But When I asked her out a month after her and her bf broke up, she rejected me. I was so confused. Does she like me? Did i ask her out to early? PS: her and I have been friends for a few years now.

Hey Brandon,

Well I think it's important for you to know that she might have rejected you because she is not ready to make a comittment yet. She just got out of a relationship. Which means that she may be going through a lot emotionally right now that does not encourage her to go right into another relationship.

Therefore, you must be patient with her. She must care about you if she did not use you as a rebound. As far as her having feelings for you, it is too early to tell. You will have to give it some time. However, don't give up on her. Stick in there, and be a friend. She needs that right now. Since she knows how you feel, you have to give her time to figure out how she feels. When she does she will let you know, and in a few months if this is still going on you can tell her how you feel. 

But right now, she needs a good friend.

Also, watch this video it should help you get out of the friend zone :)



Friday, November 23, 2012

I Want to Be a Star, but What is College?

8th Grade Mya writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I'm really focused on my future , My question is what is collage all about ? How to pick one ? What is a major ? Have a few more questions as well ...But I really LOVE music ! I'm really pationate about becoming a star , Should I start with YouTube ? This will be a great pleasure if you answer back !

Hello Mya,

I am so glad that you wrote me with this wonderful question. It gives me the opportunity to tell you how proud I am that you have chosen to take charge of your life at such a young age. College is an opportunity to gain an education that will provide you with stability for the future. However, book smarts is not the only thing you can  gain from a college education. It becomes a time where you learn about who you are as a person and helps you to find your path in life. If you love music than you should sing! Learn how to play an instrument, and learn to read music. This will help you in the future. And yes go for it! Start a youtube it  is a lot of fun and you will begin building your audience.

But  don't worry too much about making big decisions about college. You have plenty of time for that. The way you choose the right school for you is select a location where you would like to be and see if they have a program you are interested in. There are many schools, but you have to be sure to select the right one for you. That takes time and research. 

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

How Do I Get Her to Like Me?

Shy Guy from Indiana writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I would like your advice on how to talk to a girl that I know, but she knows I like her and she has a boyfriend. She pays some attention to me and it seems that she somewhat likes me, but I want to know how to make her mine.

Hi Shy Guy,

If she has a boyfriend you need to respect her relationship. If you don't you will be seen as inappropriate and somewhat of an annoyance to her. I made a video on this topic. 

Here is the Video:

I Hope This Helps!


Tuesday, October 23, 2012

He is No Good for Me...Now What?

Jasmine writes:

Hi Chauntel,
I know this guy right.... we have been talking for about 4 years. We haven't been dating that whole time, we dated 2 or 3 times out of the four years. Now, the first time we dated, i was extremely young and I was not really aware of how a boyfriend should be and what not but now I am older and mature enough to know what I want in a man and he is not it! I think he wants us to be together but I don't think he's right for me anymore. I loved him a lot at one point but I don't feel like that anymore. I can't really explain it but I just know he's not right for me(gut feeling) and he wants to know what it is about him that I don't like. I have told him several things about him that I had a problem with and it's like he forgets what I say right after I say it. One thing I don't like about him is that he points out every little flaw I have.( He'll tell me I need a perm, he'll tell me I'm chubby, he told me I had a lisp, which I know now i do because he pointed it out) I think that a guy shouldn't do that no matter how obvious it is.He makes me more mad than happy. Sometimes he's just annoys the hell out of me.We still talk today but I get mad over silly stuff and then I can't really explain why I'm mad at him. Sometimes I just wish he would leave me alone because then it would be a lot easier that way. He calls me crazy but that's how he makes me feel and not a good crazy either. I guess I just want to know how would you analyze the situation?

Hi Jasmine,

If the guy is not good for you and you know that you have to walk away from the situation. It is good that he is honest with you. However, it seems as though he crosses the line.

He should not make you feel insecure about yourself. Your man is suppose to make you feel beautiful.

By allowing this to continue you are just prolonging the inevitable, and this is just going to get harder and harder to let go. What you are experiencing right now is a mental hold that he has on you because of your history and build up of feelings for each other.

You have to put feelings aside, and this time think with your head, not your heart, and move into a new direction. Sorry but this is just not working out for you gal....that is my analysis.

I Hope This Helps!


He Said No to the Dance

Daisy writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I have a major crush on this guy i go to school with friday was the first school dance and after words i had a friend ask him out for me and apparently he said no "flatly" but i dont know if he thought she ment to go out with her but ive been really mislead because before i asked him i kept on catching him starring at me quite a bit and i really just dont know what to do...

Hi Daisy,

Miscommunication always causes confusion in relationships. The best thing to do at this point is let the dance go. Build a friendship with him and see what happens from there.

I know it can be a little scary to go out on a limb and ask a guy out, which is why you had your friend do it. But in the future you should do the talking. Chat with him yourself. This avoids uncessary confusion.

I Hope This Help!


Monday, October 1, 2012

Ask Chauntel Diary- Daddy in the Hospital

Hello Everyone,

I have been MIA this week because my dad is in the hospital. It has been a rough road, but God is able and willing to heal. Be back with more for you soon.

I appreciate you and thanks for your support.

Hugs and Kisses,


Saturday, September 22, 2012

Christian and Catholic Woman and a Man Who Doesn't Believe

17-year-old Diana from Virginia writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I seen all your videos in youtube and I really like them. I am in high school is my last year am a senior. I have been in a little long distance relationship with my boyfriend for the pass 2 years now and I have a little problem he is 18 years old. I am catholic will both catholic and Christian because some of my family are Christian. Yes I believe in god. My problem is that my boyfriend use to think negative lots of times and then he went back to Christianity and asepted god which am really happy and glad. But he is changing a little bit. But when he's with me he is sweet and sometimes when he is at his home he is like his attitude changes alittle. But I love that he protects me loves my mom and always is there for me when I need him. I would like to know what I might be doing wrong. 

Hi Diana,

Here is the hard cold truth. The Bible says that you are to be hot or cold or you will be spewed out of the mouth of God. What does this really mean?

It means that, God despises lukewarm. There is a reason for this. Nobody wants to be with anybody who is wishy-washy. Do you know why? It is because it will bring you down. It will cause unecssary drama that you do not need in your life.

This guy is not someone who is stable minded. There is a few verses in the book of Romans Chapter 8 that talk about a double-minded man. I encourage you to read that entire chapter. It is very, very informative.

The bottom line is, he needs to be strong within his faith if he is to be with you. If you are partnered with a man who is tobsy-tervy he is going to take you off of your path. You will end up resenting him in the future, and it won't work.

You can try to encourage him to seek God, but he has to want for himself.

So, you have to let him grow, and if you guys are ever on the same level in God then you can try again. I don't reccommend that you stay in this relationship; you will only be disappointed.

I Hope This Helps!


Tuesday, September 11, 2012

I am 14 With Acne and I Like a Boy

14-year--old Elise writes:

Hi Chauntel !

I like this guy who is awesomely hot for me but not for my friends. Ive liked him for about 2 years now.

The thing is all my friends think he likes me and I think so too.
But I am not sure. So my first question is : How to make sure he likes me ?
The only problem is Im ugly !

I have pretty eyes, a nice body and my face is ok The only thing is I have quite a lot of acne mostly on my chin and forehead which makes me quite ugly !

So my second question is : would he not date/like me because Im ugly even though i am a good person !

Thank you so much in advNce !
ElisePs : ur so pretty and i love ur videos.

Hi Elise,

Everyone, and I mean everyone has a flaw that makes them feel insecure. The reality is that no one was created to be perfect, and everyone is striving for perfection.

You must be who you are, and find someone who will appreciate that. If they do not, then they are not right for you. 

As for this guy, I am not sure if he likes you or not, because you did not give me enough information to determine that. However, based on what you have said, it doesn't seem like he knows you enough to like you.

I therefore reccomond that you build a relationship with him and go from there. I also highly reccomend that you spend some time getting to know who you are and loving that person, because if you are down on yourself he will not be attracted to you. Men are attracted to confidence just as much as women are. 

And thanks for the beautiful compliments. I am sure that you are just as beautiful outside as you are inside, and I know that acne can be a rough thing to deal with. Keep in mind, that it is only for a season.

Also, if you haven't seen this video, you need to watch it:

Be Blessed Lady!

I Hope This Helps!


Monday, August 13, 2012

How do I focus on One Woman?

Hello Korsa,

I decided to continue answering your question here since the video was cut off in the editing process.

I will continue where I left off.

You really need to focus on what you want. At 36 years old it is time to set a path for yourself. You should align your personal and professional goals. It is time to be serious about your dating life. 

The next women that you date should be for finding a wife, a companion, otherwise you will get caught up in this cycle and continue until these women look down on you, or chose not to take you seriously.

It is time to find out who you are and move forward!

I Hope This Helps!


Tuesday, July 31, 2012

10 Ways to Scare Off Your Boyfriend!

Hey Guys!

Here is another article from Donna Cullen from Top Dating Sites!

I thought it was funny! I hope you enjoy;

Lots of Love!


Thursday, July 26, 2012

How to Prevent Wrinkles

Hey Guys!

I am excited! Here is a guest post from Ivana Vitali from the UK. She works for a company who gives skin and body care.

Here is her website:

I hope you enjoy! -Chauntel

Are You Trying to Stay Young Looking Using Common Myths?

You have probably heard a lot of things about what you can do to try and stay young looking. A
lot of them are probably pretty useful but others are complete fabrications.

That’s right; many of the tips and supposed facts you have heard – and have possibly even
been using – are completely useless. Let’s out the most common ones.

Wrinkles = Dry Skin

The wording which some cosmetics manufacturers use doesn’t help here. They talk a lot about
dry lines around your eyes but they aren’t talking about wrinkles. These are caused by a lot
of things, such as sun damage, loss of estrogen and your genetic makeup. What they are not
caused by is dry skin, which means that no amount of moisture cream is going to shift them.
What you need is a special anti wrinkle treatment to deal with these tell tale signs of aging.

The Most Expensive Treatments and Creams Are the Best

We are so used to being told that paying a bit more gets us something of higher quality that
we automatically assume that the same applies to beauty treatments and anti aging creams as
well. In fact, this isn’t always the case. What you need to look for is the product which is most
suited to your skin type. This might not be the most expensive product around and you are
best trying to ignore the price until you find out first of all which cream is right for you.

Your Cream Needs to Match Your Age

There are a lot of products around now which are marketed according to the age of the user.
This seems to make a lot of sense but it doesn’t stand up to any logical analysis. Your skin is
defined not by your age but rather by its type. You should choose the cream you are going to
use based on whether your skin is dry or oily rather than your age.

Drinking Lots of Water Prevents Wrinkles

Wrinkles form naturally and, as we have seen earlier, there are many reasons for them. A lack
of water in your body is not one of them. Being well hydrated can help your skin glow and
make you look healthier overall but it won’t do anything about the formation of wrinkles. You
should definitely look to drink a lot of water but you won’t be doing it to keep the wrinkles at


If you want to see the right anti aging products for you then check out the site at http:// for a great start.

Sunday, June 17, 2012

6th Grade Love

6th Grade Gwen writes:

Dear Ask Chauntel,

Theres this guy in my class and sometimes I feel like hes staring at me. For example: Once when I said I didn't feel like playing soccer he said, "but I thought you liked Football" in a very soft voice. And sometimes in class I catch him staring at me but I am never sure if it was me or someone else. 

Next is that when I was dating his best friend (in the past) he was really cold to me but before that he was nice and now hes nice to me again. How do I know if he likes me and from the information does he like? Hes a shy guy by the way.

Hello Gwen!

When a guy pays extra special attention to you it usually means that he is interested. However, you have to give this situation a little more time. From the information that you have provided, we cannot properly conclude that he likes you. Give it sometimes. As far as how he acts around his friend, it just his immaturaty. You don't want to get you heart set on it just yet. Just give it sometime. You are still very young.

I Hope This Helps!


Tuesday, June 12, 2012

New IPad

I am so excited! I finally got an iPad which means I am much more mobile now! I really needed to get mobile so that I can access your beautiful questions more efficiently. Happy Tuesday! Thanks to google I will be launching a new soon! Fun fun fun! Toddles! Chauntel

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Summer Love

by Ask Chauntel
Summertime is approaching, and we all know what that means! Summer Love!

What is it about the summer time that gets people going? Is it the calming summer breeze after a hot day that blows your hair back around your neck? Is it the inspiration all of the pretty spring flowers that have just bloomed that makes you want to hold onto something beautiful and new. Maybe it’s simply the ever longing for someone to spend your newfound free time with.

During the springtime the flowers bloom, the birds sing, and the world’s beauty is at it’s finest. The spring season captures a quick preview of what the summer has to offer, and the emotion of love is explored.

Young Love happens at a rapid pace in the summer. New and innocent relationships have time to develop as a result of more available time and new surroundings.

The nature of summer love breeds the phenomenon of the Summer Fling. The Summer Fling is initiated with school ending, vacation beginning, an exciting new summer job, exploring new hobbies, and even the sweet taste of fresh fruit on your tongue. The Summer Fling subsides when reality sets in, people leave for college, school is back in session, the work season is vibrant, vacation ends, and its time to go back home. Summer Flings end when reality sets in, the head begins to lead the heart instead of the heart leading the head.

Relationships begin with attraction, but attraction alone cannot sustain the relationship. From attraction, we feel butterflies, which are little balls of emotion that gather in our belly and make us smile. This smile is maintained through building a relationship. Although, summer love may aid to the onset of these positive emotions, the summer fling may end as a result of reality setting in.

Summer Romance movies, full of romantic comedies are on their way! I am such a sap, and love the summer chick flicks! It’s time to get my cute little summer dresses out!

So what can you do to capture some summer lovin’? You have to look the part, and you must give yourself an opportunity to meet and greet. The summer wardrobe initiates attraction. Confidence is key!

For you fellas’ here is a tip, girls like a men who can dress well, and ladies, men like women in high heels with a soft fragrant smell.

This is the time where body image is of utmost importance. You have to get your body “beach-ready.” Summer time means heat, and that means people are going to be exploring new ways to wear less clothes. We are folding up our pants and long sleeve shirts and pulling out our flirty summer dresses and cute shorts.

However, be careful with how much skin you show! You only want to show enough skin to make a statement, but you don’t want too much of the “goods” showing and make the wrong impression.

Summer weddings are on their way! We usually associate the sun with happiness, and a dark gloomy day with sadness. Many wait for the summer to have their weddings to avoid the rain, and a gloomy day. Many chose to celebrate their summer love with the power of a beautiful blue sky and precious white clouds overhead.

Summer barbeques, hobbies, weddings, and jobs are all new opportunities to meet new and exciting people.

I encourages you to: Be Classy Sassy and Chic this summer! Her are some tips:

Women’s Summer 2012 fashion trends:
  • Head-to-Toe Prints-
  • Chunky Bangles-
  • Cropped tops- “make sure your tummy looks perfect”
  • Hot Pants- high or low waisted
  • Boat Neck- “show off your shoulders”
  • Lace Dresses- be careful not to look grandma-ish thou, keep it vintage and cute
  • Cheerful Color Blocking-
  • Super Bold
  • Color Guide: Oranges and Tangerines, Pink Short Suits, Pastel Shades, Colorful
Men’s Summer 2012 fashion trends (
  • Printed accessories
  • Short suites
  • Pastel colors
  • Colored shoes
  • Tassel loafers
  • Safari jackets
  • Camouflage
  • Neck ties
  • Color Guide: prints, blues, greys

Be Blessed!


Blog Talk Radio Tonight- Topic Summer Love

Hey Guys!

Tonight, May 24, 2012, I will be doing a Radio Segment, on BlogTalkRadio on the topic Summer Love!

Here is the show description: Chauntel talks about what to expect from the summer love season. Love is coming. It is time to get prepared!

Tune in at 9:30pm, CA time.

I will be taking calls with your questions so have your questions ready!

Here is the link to the show!:

Listen to internet radio with askchauntel on Blog Talk Radio

Lot's of Love!


Wednesday, April 25, 2012

How Do I Talk To Beautiful Women?

Kevin writes: 

Hi Chauntel,

I'm a very handsome Black guy I'm  a good guy but Im sometimes shy depending on my environment or how I feel. I have more friends that are guys more than females . I want to change that .

(My first question ) is how can surround myself with beautiful women . How can I bond or have a friendship with several of beautiful women . Who I want to be friends with or in a relationship with .

( Second question) how  can I get a women who I'm attracted to emotionally invest in me . Whether it may be through friendship or in a relationship.

I'm in college Ive approached a few women here and there . Got numbers . But there's really haven't been a meet up with women who I'm attracted to so yeah .
(Three question) How  can I bond with beautiful women I want to establish a friendship with or a relationship with ?

(Fourth question) How can I talk to beautiful women that I want to know and not run out of things to Say ?

I'm mean I very handsome guy and I dress like I'm a guy coming off a run way . I've been like the guy who relied to much on my looks and I've just been sort lazy at first . But I starting to realize that women don't really care to much about a good men have good looks but more about personality . Which is different for the majority of men . We tend to focus on how beautiful a women outer appearance is first rather than her personality .
It's really bugged me because this questions been on my mind lately and know one really seem to have the answers . Haha hopefully you know .

And yeah it been bugging me because lately when I go out I I read your profile info and you seem really chill . I would like to know you . I. noticed  that most beautiful women today in society are going out  hideous/ ugly guys . Or should i say take by most of them . Who look nothing as good  close to how I look . Whim its ludicrous I don't understand . I don't know if you noticed this as well. but it really been driving me over the edge . But yeah . It is handsome guys that are suppose to lead not the ugly ones . At least that how I perceive it to be . But yeah .

Hi Kevin,

Girls are not attracted to men solely on either their looks or their personality. Usually, it's a little of both, If a women is not attracted to you physically she will not be able to pursue a romantic relationship with you. 

However, having looks alone does not suffice. Who you are plays an inaugural  part in if she will be interested in continuing a relationship with you after an initial physical attraction. You have to be able to keep her attention. You have to find a way to relate and conversation with her. 

 Give yourself an opportunity to simply have a pleasant conversation with women around you. 

It doesn't take much to get a woman to talk, but you have to make her feel comfortable doing so. She needs to feel like there is a reason to do so as well. Which means you should entertain her. Make her laugh, compliment her, small gestures like these will encourage her to continue talking to you in the future.

If you make her feel uncomfortable or awkward she will just ignore your phone call after you have secured her number. You are already amidst beautiful women everyday at school, and another way to find women is simply go out and do things. Involve yourself in activities.  You avoid running out of things to say by asking open ended questions. You establish a friendship by conversing, and finding a common interest. It takes time and a little effort. It doesn't happen instanteously, but if you continue cultivating the relationship it will blossom. 

Bottom line.....change your attitude and your approach to women. You make her interested by the way you approach her and how you present yourself. If she sees you as a waste of time, she won't give you the time of day.

You dig?

This Video Should Help!:

I Hope This Helps!


Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Why Men Love Bigger Women!

Hello All of You Beautiful People!

Here is an article that was shared with me from by Donna Cullen:



Thursday, March 22, 2012

Interracial Dating Whites and Asians

Sally writes:

I like this Asian guy his name is l am and I actually think he likes me even though I'm white, anyways he's the shy guy as you say and I'm way to shy to talk to him how do we start a conversation?

Hello Sally,

Interracial dating can seem to be a little intimidating at first, but it is important for you to be confident in who you are. The most important point is to find a common interest between the two of you. You can talk about something that you have in common. For example, if you are in a class together, you might make a statement like "So what did you decide to do your paper on?" If you have on the same color you can make a comment about that, and ask an open ended question like, "What are your plans for today?" Hopefully, he is a good communicator and can help contribute to the conversation if he is interested in talking. This video should also help:



How to Approach A Woman With Headphones On

Charley writes:

Whats goin on witcha Chauntel?

I was watching your video on how to keep a conversation with women and you made some interesting points like the only problem I have is approaching women with headphones on, how wud I approach her?

Nothing Much Charlie:

Here is how you do it:

Make her laugh by pretending to bounce to the beat of the music that she is listening to. Eventually she should take them off if she is at all interested. This will be followed up by the points I gave in the video:

I hope this helps!


Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Valentines Day

Happy V! Day Everyone!

Honestly, you should show love everyday. But take a special moment today to spend with the ones you love.

Take time to remind them of just how special they are!

Be Blessed!


Monday, February 13, 2012

The Economics of Valentine’s Day

Hey Guys Here is A cute little article about Valentines Day that someone shared with me:

Thursday, February 9, 2012

How do I flirt with Him?

12-year-old Lovely writes:

I just watched your flirt 101 video on youtube and I need some help. My friend got dumped 3 weeks ago and hes really cute and I don't know how to flirt with him.

Hi Lovely:

Try giving him a kiss on the cheek or a hug. Put your arm around his shoulder. All of these things are playful flirting.

I Hope This Helps!