Tuesday, November 3, 2009

How Do I Let Him Go?

Denise writes:

Hi Chauntel!

I dated this guy 3 months ago and we did really fun stuff . Til one day we broke up and then later he got back with this girl that he was before like 7 times! i got really crushed. then later we went out again and this time it was worse. we talked on the phone on friday coz our school was gonna have a halloween party. He told me that he wanted to hang out with me that day. When i got there i saw him but he just ignored me. He hanged out with this girl that he said that they werent even friends. I felt crushed!!! I was hoping to hang out with him. Later i called him and asked him why he didnt hang out with me and he said that he was having to much fun to hang out with me. i liked him so much!! we broke up and i just feel crushed!!! at school he and his friends make fun of me. I cried a lot for all the things he has done to me. I can't stop thinking about him. What should i do chauntel? I'm trying to move on but it is too hard. i see him every day at school. He keeps flirting with me and being so mean chauntel!

Hello Denise!
Sometimes we get so caught up in a guy that we stop looking at ourselves and what really makes us happy. As focused on him as you are you are forgetting one main thing. He is not making you happy.

He doesn't seem interested enough to deserve you. It sounds like he is more worried about what his friends think. He also seems very pre-occupied with a lot of lady friends.

You have not reason to compete with that. So what do you do?

Simple, ignore his friends. Say hi to them and keep it pushing! If you see him say hello. Do not schedule anymore time to hang out with him. This will allow you to distance yourself from the situation. It may be hard at first but everyday will get a little easier. Eventually you will get to the point where you don't even think of him anymore.

He will then begin to wonder what happened. Don't you worry about that, let him figure it out. In the meantime you will probably find you a new boo, because your focus will be off of him. Trust me one day in the near future he will regret his stupidity.

But he is on the rebound anyway. So let him get back with his ex. and that way you can find someone who will treat you right!

I Hope This Helps!


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