Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Ask Chauntel Diary Entry

Went to Venice Beach today! Had a lot of fun! Saw a lot of interesting people! Going to Let's Make a Deal Tomorrow.

Peace and Love,


Monday, June 20, 2011

How to Dress on A Date

Maymay writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I want no how dress 4 my First Date i do not how 2 Dress 4 a date there is a one more thing how do i act he is very cute i like very much.

Hi Maymay,

You should dress in something that makes you feel good, but that also looks attractive to the eye. You should be yourself + a little sexy, but be conservative. You don't want to put it all out there at once. It is not attractive to do so. Leave him with more to imagine about.

But the main thing is you want to dress in something that you feel confident in.

I Hope This Helps!


Saturday, June 18, 2011

He Is In Love With Someone Else

Church Girl writes:

Hey Chauntel,

So I Have Been Lookinq Thru Your Videos I See That You Give Really Good Advice. I Was Wonderinq If You Can Help Me. So Im 15 Years Old And I Like This Guy. He Is Such A Great Guy. We Talk On Facebook And Also At Church. But The Problem Is That He Has A Girlfriend, Who He Calls "The One". But It Really Confusses Me Because He Does Thinqs That Are A Clear Siqn of Him Likeing Me. I Just Dont Know Anymore. Please Help!!

Hello Church Girl,

STOP here and turn right!! Let him experience his relationship. Stay friends with him. If it is meant you and him will get together in time.

In the meantime go ahead and keep your options open, but keep him close....just in case!

I Hope This Helps!


Monday, June 13, 2011

We Have A Child and He Left Me

Heartbroken writes:

Hello Chauntel,

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now and I love him so much. We've had some rough edges in our relationship and I just want him to love me as much as I love him, but I don't hink he even loves me anymore. I really want to be with him because he has always been there fo rme and I truely care about him. I think he likes my best friend because he left his Facebook opened and I couldn't resist opening his email. He always said he didn't like my best friend, but I knew that was a lie because everytime they were together they would always laugh at eachother and he would always have a smile on his face. He always said he wouldn't be with her cause she has 4 kids and no offense, but one with a black guy. I was going to a bar and invited a black guy to come with and he found out because of my best friend telling him everything. He was pissed and broke up with me, but I never left the house because I was never going to do anything with this guy and I would never cheat on my boyfriend. It wasn't like I was actually gonna call him or have my friend call him because I don't even have his number. It's messed up because he can do whatever he wants, but if I do something he gets all pissed off. Yes, i'm still here after he told me he dont want to be with me, but I love him so much and I don't wanna be heartbroken. The hardest part is we have a kid together and I want my son to be with his daddy. I don't know what to do. He says that I complain all the time, but I'm doing the best I can. It's hard cause I'm doing everything by myself with no help. I know that he loves his son and he does alot for us, but I just want him to love me. I'm thinking that they may have even hung out because he will say he goes to a friend house and end up going to his cousins. Sometimes he don't even want to watch his own son. Most of the time he don't want me to go anywhere with him. He always tells me that I have to be with him all the time, but I don't want to be home all day either. I just don't know what to do. He hates it when I tell him what to do because he's so hard headed. HELP!

Hello Heartbroken,

I am sorry that you are going through all of this. It sounds like your relationship was broken even before you went out with the guy, but you should have communicated that you would be going out before you did. Since you didn't it lead him to believe that you were cheating on him.

As far as him liking your friend or even someone else there isn't much that you can do about that. However, I would suggest sitting down and talking to him about how you feel.

But remember, although it is nice for parents to be together for the children, it is never wise to do so unless you all really want to be together.

I Hope This Helps!


Friday, June 10, 2011

If He Doesn't Bite Let Him Find Something Else to Chew

NoCellphone writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I am a youtuber who has a question that is urgent!!!!!!:) Im a girl who has NO cellphone, or facebook. I like a guy that i became friends with at the beginning of this year. When we both realized we wanted the same car and loved to run, my friends thought we were a perfect couple. He would always say hi to me any chance he got with my name included. all the girls have a thing for him, and im the shy one who likes to get good grades. Im constantly complimented for my looks, and this guy actually likes my interests, such as art. we both play violin, but i take private lessons, anyways, when i first met him, he would cling to every word i said and listen intently. he would say hi whenever he could too. he always found something that was in relation to me, and was too kind. i like him now, but when one of my friends told his best friend that i liked him, i noticed that he didnt say hi anymore and in class i would catch him peeking at me. when we had to answer questions in front of the class, his friend saw that i was next and made everyone in the group gave me the easiest question. i looked over to see the guy i liked and he was staring at me with an unreadable expression. just BLANK, something he did a lot in class. he acts like he doesnt know that i like him, even though he isn't aware that i know that he knows i like him. its summerbreak now, but everyone knows i like him. I would REALLY APPRECIATE it if you could tell me what you believe is going on. i dont want to ruin the friendship, but i really want to know, although i wont ask. Thank you for reading this obnoxiously long letter:)

Hello NoCellphone,
If the guy knows that you like him, and he isn't making a move, that means he isn't interested. Focus your attention in another area.

I Hope This Helps,


Thursday, June 9, 2011

She Left Me For Another Man

Hello Chauntel,

I don't know how to even say this because it's all out of the blue.I have a problem and I know it doesn't really have a solution.It's too late for any favorable solution anyway but I can't seem to get past it.Well I've been talking to this girl for quite awhile over internet. She use to live in Wisconsin while I live in South Carolina.We talked for quite sometime and began to get pretty close.She eventually left Wisconsin and went to Georgia where she had family and it was closer to me so maybe me and her had more chance to get together. This is where it gets complicated.I have these times when I get pretty down on myself and during those times it's not uncommon for me to just withdraw from everyone (she and I knew each quite she knew this about me).And right around when she moved to Georgia was one of those times.Well she found work at a bar and grill as a waitress and while I was going through this thing she met someone (being at a bar that should come as no surprise) and now she is with him.I wondered why she wasn't emailing me like normal so I checked her facebook page and there it was in black and white.She found someone else. I feel so sad but there's noone to really talk to about it.I'm not the most social person in the world as you could probablly guess.I left a note to her which in hindsight I probablly shouldn't have typed (did apologize to her later though).i was mad at her for not saying anything to me, mad at myself for withdrawing into my shell and allowing a opportunity like her to slip through my fingers.Especially after she went through all the trouble of moving closer.I just can't get over feeling sad about it.

Hello Broken Hearted,

Thank you for sharing your story. The truth is that this is a very difficult situation, but you are not alone. There are many people who experience the same thing. The women in your situation probably just didn't know how to express her feelings to you.

All you can do is pick up the pieces and take it day-by-day. You will feel better in time, but remember it won't happen automatically. Feelings take time to heal. Surround yourself with people who love you.

I Hope This Helps!