Tuesday, October 23, 2012

He is No Good for Me...Now What?

Jasmine writes:

Hi Chauntel,
I know this guy right.... we have been talking for about 4 years. We haven't been dating that whole time, we dated 2 or 3 times out of the four years. Now, the first time we dated, i was extremely young and I was not really aware of how a boyfriend should be and what not but now I am older and mature enough to know what I want in a man and he is not it! I think he wants us to be together but I don't think he's right for me anymore. I loved him a lot at one point but I don't feel like that anymore. I can't really explain it but I just know he's not right for me(gut feeling) and he wants to know what it is about him that I don't like. I have told him several things about him that I had a problem with and it's like he forgets what I say right after I say it. One thing I don't like about him is that he points out every little flaw I have.( He'll tell me I need a perm, he'll tell me I'm chubby, he told me I had a lisp, which I know now i do because he pointed it out) I think that a guy shouldn't do that no matter how obvious it is.He makes me more mad than happy. Sometimes he's just annoys the hell out of me.We still talk today but I get mad over silly stuff and then I can't really explain why I'm mad at him. Sometimes I just wish he would leave me alone because then it would be a lot easier that way. He calls me crazy but that's how he makes me feel and not a good crazy either. I guess I just want to know how would you analyze the situation?

Hi Jasmine,

If the guy is not good for you and you know that you have to walk away from the situation. It is good that he is honest with you. However, it seems as though he crosses the line.

He should not make you feel insecure about yourself. Your man is suppose to make you feel beautiful.

By allowing this to continue you are just prolonging the inevitable, and this is just going to get harder and harder to let go. What you are experiencing right now is a mental hold that he has on you because of your history and build up of feelings for each other.

You have to put feelings aside, and this time think with your head, not your heart, and move into a new direction. Sorry but this is just not working out for you gal....that is my analysis.

I Hope This Helps!


He Said No to the Dance

Daisy writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I have a major crush on this guy i go to school with friday was the first school dance and after words i had a friend ask him out for me and apparently he said no "flatly" but i dont know if he thought she ment to go out with her but ive been really mislead because before i asked him i kept on catching him starring at me quite a bit and i really just dont know what to do...

Hi Daisy,

Miscommunication always causes confusion in relationships. The best thing to do at this point is let the dance go. Build a friendship with him and see what happens from there.

I know it can be a little scary to go out on a limb and ask a guy out, which is why you had your friend do it. But in the future you should do the talking. Chat with him yourself. This avoids uncessary confusion.

I Hope This Help!


Monday, October 1, 2012

Ask Chauntel Diary- Daddy in the Hospital

Hello Everyone,

I have been MIA this week because my dad is in the hospital. It has been a rough road, but God is able and willing to heal. Be back with more for you soon.

I appreciate you and thanks for your support.

Hugs and Kisses,