Saturday, September 22, 2012

Christian and Catholic Woman and a Man Who Doesn't Believe

17-year-old Diana from Virginia writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I seen all your videos in youtube and I really like them. I am in high school is my last year am a senior. I have been in a little long distance relationship with my boyfriend for the pass 2 years now and I have a little problem he is 18 years old. I am catholic will both catholic and Christian because some of my family are Christian. Yes I believe in god. My problem is that my boyfriend use to think negative lots of times and then he went back to Christianity and asepted god which am really happy and glad. But he is changing a little bit. But when he's with me he is sweet and sometimes when he is at his home he is like his attitude changes alittle. But I love that he protects me loves my mom and always is there for me when I need him. I would like to know what I might be doing wrong. 

Hi Diana,

Here is the hard cold truth. The Bible says that you are to be hot or cold or you will be spewed out of the mouth of God. What does this really mean?

It means that, God despises lukewarm. There is a reason for this. Nobody wants to be with anybody who is wishy-washy. Do you know why? It is because it will bring you down. It will cause unecssary drama that you do not need in your life.

This guy is not someone who is stable minded. There is a few verses in the book of Romans Chapter 8 that talk about a double-minded man. I encourage you to read that entire chapter. It is very, very informative.

The bottom line is, he needs to be strong within his faith if he is to be with you. If you are partnered with a man who is tobsy-tervy he is going to take you off of your path. You will end up resenting him in the future, and it won't work.

You can try to encourage him to seek God, but he has to want for himself.

So, you have to let him grow, and if you guys are ever on the same level in God then you can try again. I don't reccommend that you stay in this relationship; you will only be disappointed.

I Hope This Helps!


Tuesday, September 11, 2012

I am 14 With Acne and I Like a Boy

14-year--old Elise writes:

Hi Chauntel !

I like this guy who is awesomely hot for me but not for my friends. Ive liked him for about 2 years now.

The thing is all my friends think he likes me and I think so too.
But I am not sure. So my first question is : How to make sure he likes me ?
The only problem is Im ugly !

I have pretty eyes, a nice body and my face is ok The only thing is I have quite a lot of acne mostly on my chin and forehead which makes me quite ugly !

So my second question is : would he not date/like me because Im ugly even though i am a good person !

Thank you so much in advNce !
ElisePs : ur so pretty and i love ur videos.

Hi Elise,

Everyone, and I mean everyone has a flaw that makes them feel insecure. The reality is that no one was created to be perfect, and everyone is striving for perfection.

You must be who you are, and find someone who will appreciate that. If they do not, then they are not right for you. 

As for this guy, I am not sure if he likes you or not, because you did not give me enough information to determine that. However, based on what you have said, it doesn't seem like he knows you enough to like you.

I therefore reccomond that you build a relationship with him and go from there. I also highly reccomend that you spend some time getting to know who you are and loving that person, because if you are down on yourself he will not be attracted to you. Men are attracted to confidence just as much as women are. 

And thanks for the beautiful compliments. I am sure that you are just as beautiful outside as you are inside, and I know that acne can be a rough thing to deal with. Keep in mind, that it is only for a season.

Also, if you haven't seen this video, you need to watch it:

Be Blessed Lady!

I Hope This Helps!