Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Should I Tell My Crush I Like Him on Facebook?

Brooke writes: 

Hello Chauntel,

I'm a sophmore in high school and I like this boy who's a senior. I always see him when he comes from his fourth period class to go to his fifth period class and we walk right past each other to get to our fifth period class. I recently added him on facebook and I was going to send him a msg letting him know that I like him but I rather do it in person.. How should I go up to him and let him know that im interested? I'm just hoping that he's interested and single too.

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Hi Brooke,

Do not send this to him on Facebook. If he doesn't like you he could later use this against you. Case in point, let's just say this guy isn't the nicest and he decides to show your heartfelt message to his friends, that would be hurtful right?

Good for you that you had the courage to add him on Facebook. Sure, you can send him a message saying hello and beginning a conversation, but not about you liking him. Wouldn't that be weird? The two of you don't even know each other yet.  

If anything you should talk to him in person. Maybe set up a time to study with him for the class that the two of you have together. Maybe invite him out with friends. If he says no, no skin off your back, and if he says yes, well good for you gal!

I Hope This Helps!


I Like a Shy Guy

13-Year-Old MJ from California writes:

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I really like this guy but he ignores me and hes shy around other people i sometimes hang out with his friends who r also my friends but i want to talk to him but dont know what to say and how to get his attention

Hi MJ!

You have to gain some courage and just say hello, and start up a conversation with him. Otherwise you will continue looking from afar.

Go get ya man girl!


I am Stuck in a Love Triangle

17-year-old Melanie writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I need some dating advice! I'm stuck in a love triangle. Their both great guys that I've known since elementary school but i have no idea what i should do! One of them asked me out recently and i told them that i would have to think about it. They're both my good friends and i dont want to break the others heart because i know both of them like me. What should I do?!

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Hi Melanie,

Oh, I know oh too well what you are going through. It is quite a confusing place to be in. What you absolutely have to do is decide if you like either of them. You may not.

Once you decide who you like more then you date him, but not before you know for sure. You don't want to get sucked in a relationship that you don't want to be in just to be nice. We as girls do that too much! 

Also, you have to be aware that to date a friend, is possibly to loose a friend. So...make sure that you two have an understanding as to what will happen if it doesn't work out. Try your best to keep that friendship that you have worked on all of these years. I think love is worth the risk.

Don't feel pressured to do anything. Take all the time you need. If they like you that much they will wait.

I Hope This Helps!


My Bestfriend and I Like the Same Guy...I Think???

Confused writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I have a crush on a guy but i think the guy likes my best friend. I was too shy to talk to him and I\'m afraid that if I just randomly come up to him and start talking he will just feel really awkward and try to walk away. I\'m the type of girl who is fun to be around if i know someone really well but if i don\'t know someone, i just start to panic and become really quiet. My crush and my best friend are in the same class and somehow they always get paired up with each other. My crush keeps trying to talk with my best friend. Even though my best friend is not interested in him I somehow feel that she is afraid to tell me that she likes him. My best friend sometimes tries to avoid him and at other times tries to be friends with him. Although i didnt see the both of them talking but i know that they talk. I have heard it from several of my other friends and also my best friend who keep complaining to me (sometimes) about how annoying my crush is.I told everyone that i\'m not i nterested in that guy and i\'m trying to move on but it sometimes hurts me to see ... Am I doing the right thing? Plz answer as fast as you can and tell me where i can find your answer. Thanks a lot for taking the time to read this and sorry for the grammatical mistakes.

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Hi Confused,

I encourage you to be honest with your best-friend. Don't pretend not to like the guy. Why lie about it?

However, if she does like him then the two of you should leave this guy alone because this could really effect your friendship. Don't be afraid to talk to him. How else can you get to know him better?

Start with a smile and hello. It doesn't have to be a long conversation.

 The main thing here is you do not want this guy to end up affecting the relationship that you have with your bestfriend. Bestfriends don't come along often, and when they do you should cherish them!

I Hope This Helps!