Hello There!
I am so glad to say that you heard it here first! I am engaged!
I have been MIA lately. For a couple of reasons. The usual, school, work, new internship.
BUT nothing compares to the ultimate! Planning a wedding. Stay tuned for a video on this (:
xxxxxx
Chauntel
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Friday, March 4, 2011
10 Great Ways to Surprise Your Spouse
Hey guys my friends from ” (http://www.topdatingsites.com/blog/2011/10-great-ways-to-surprise-your-spouse/) wrote this article. Check it out.
Lots of Love,
Chauntel
Are things getting predictable between the two of you after all those years together? Do you both feel like you’ve hit a dry-spell in your marriage?
It sounds like it’s time to spice things up. Don’t wince! It’s not going to cost you too much, and somehow I think you’re going to come out ahead with your better half. After all, if they’re happy doesn’t that mean you will be as well?
Here are a few suggestions to get things fun again.
The Love Note – Stuff the note in their wallet or purse or maybe tuck it under a windshield wiper or their car’s visor. If they work at home you could even leave the note at their usual work area, whether it is a desk or in the kitchen. You don’t need to be a poet, a simple ‘I love you’ works. Corniness is its own sweetness. Sticky notes can add a bit of fun to the event.
The Computer – Change their desktop wallpaper to a cute photo of you two. It could be your engagement photo or a wedding photo. Or perhaps it could be the photo of that certain vacation spot that took your breath away. Anything that says, “I’m thinking about us.”
Music, Music, Music! – Burn a CD with tunes from your dating days maybe even starting off with your favorite song, or the song you two danced at your wedding reception. Here you might even put one song that is particularly yours because it will make them think of you when you’re not around.
Ah, The Moon! – Find out when is the next full moon and celebrate together with champagne and maybe some cheese and home-baked bread. If you want to be really be romantic how about setting up a table outside in full view of the moon with some candles. You don’t even have to light the candles. Got a telescope?
Their Favorite Thing-Not Yours! – They just love basketball, but you can’t stand it, or their favorite movie is the “Sound of Music”, while you would rather watch “Transformers”? Go out and get those tickets, one for them and one for you.
Breakfast in Bed? – That’s way too predictable. How about dinner in bed (and who cares about the crumbs). So you’re not a cook. Have fun with a TV dinner. Remember, it’s the thought, right?
Introvert or extrovert? – If your spouse is has an introverted personality, then time alone is a great surprise. Take the kids out of the house for a couple of hours so they can have some peace and quiet. If they’re a extrovert who loves to have people around, invite a bunch of friends over for a night of fun. Let them be the life of the party.
Let Them Know You Were Listening – What have they complained about lately? Is their pillow getting flat? Does the garage need some cleaning? It’s always a great surprise to come home and find out that your spouse not only heard what you said, but did something about it.
The Big Split – Go shopping with them at a bookstore or music store together. Now split up. Buy something you know they’ll love. Then wrap it and surprise them.
Give them a Weekend Getaway– Provide your spouse with the opportunity to spend a weekend with their best friend, sibling, or the old college dorm mate. Nothing shows you care more than saying, ‘I want you to have fun.’
The idea is to always keep them guessing. The fun is the surprise. Still water certainly runs deep but it’s just still. Stir it up. Maybe doing these things might provoke your creative juices, or something unique about your spouse will require an adjustment to the ideas above. Are they an intellectual, enjoying a thought-provoking book? Take the note suggestion, and The Big Split and go find that book they told you about and put the note in it before giving it to them. The surprise should always communicate your love and appreciation for them.
Lots of Love,
Chauntel
Are things getting predictable between the two of you after all those years together? Do you both feel like you’ve hit a dry-spell in your marriage?
It sounds like it’s time to spice things up. Don’t wince! It’s not going to cost you too much, and somehow I think you’re going to come out ahead with your better half. After all, if they’re happy doesn’t that mean you will be as well?
Here are a few suggestions to get things fun again.
The Love Note – Stuff the note in their wallet or purse or maybe tuck it under a windshield wiper or their car’s visor. If they work at home you could even leave the note at their usual work area, whether it is a desk or in the kitchen. You don’t need to be a poet, a simple ‘I love you’ works. Corniness is its own sweetness. Sticky notes can add a bit of fun to the event.
The Computer – Change their desktop wallpaper to a cute photo of you two. It could be your engagement photo or a wedding photo. Or perhaps it could be the photo of that certain vacation spot that took your breath away. Anything that says, “I’m thinking about us.”
Music, Music, Music! – Burn a CD with tunes from your dating days maybe even starting off with your favorite song, or the song you two danced at your wedding reception. Here you might even put one song that is particularly yours because it will make them think of you when you’re not around.
Ah, The Moon! – Find out when is the next full moon and celebrate together with champagne and maybe some cheese and home-baked bread. If you want to be really be romantic how about setting up a table outside in full view of the moon with some candles. You don’t even have to light the candles. Got a telescope?
Their Favorite Thing-Not Yours! – They just love basketball, but you can’t stand it, or their favorite movie is the “Sound of Music”, while you would rather watch “Transformers”? Go out and get those tickets, one for them and one for you.
Breakfast in Bed? – That’s way too predictable. How about dinner in bed (and who cares about the crumbs). So you’re not a cook. Have fun with a TV dinner. Remember, it’s the thought, right?
Introvert or extrovert? – If your spouse is has an introverted personality, then time alone is a great surprise. Take the kids out of the house for a couple of hours so they can have some peace and quiet. If they’re a extrovert who loves to have people around, invite a bunch of friends over for a night of fun. Let them be the life of the party.
Let Them Know You Were Listening – What have they complained about lately? Is their pillow getting flat? Does the garage need some cleaning? It’s always a great surprise to come home and find out that your spouse not only heard what you said, but did something about it.
The Big Split – Go shopping with them at a bookstore or music store together. Now split up. Buy something you know they’ll love. Then wrap it and surprise them.
Give them a Weekend Getaway– Provide your spouse with the opportunity to spend a weekend with their best friend, sibling, or the old college dorm mate. Nothing shows you care more than saying, ‘I want you to have fun.’
The idea is to always keep them guessing. The fun is the surprise. Still water certainly runs deep but it’s just still. Stir it up. Maybe doing these things might provoke your creative juices, or something unique about your spouse will require an adjustment to the ideas above. Are they an intellectual, enjoying a thought-provoking book? Take the note suggestion, and The Big Split and go find that book they told you about and put the note in it before giving it to them. The surprise should always communicate your love and appreciation for them.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
How to Gain Self-Esteem
15-year-old Shay from London: writes:
Hi Chauntel,
I used to be really overweight, all the way from when I was a toddler, until about a year ago. I've lost a lot of weight, and although I still have a bit of a way to go,I look so much better than I did before. Due to my previous weight, my confidence level has gone down, so much that there was a period of time where I hated lookinginto mirrors, and I used to tell myself negative things that would happen to me. I can say that I no longer do so, but my confidence level has never come back, I am going to be starting Sixth Form in September and I really want to make new friends, and be able to meet new people, in any given situations. I am very nervous around boys, as I still feel I am the size I was, and I feelthat I am not worth a boy talking to me. I just want to know any help that you could give me, in regard to being more confident around boys and in myself.Thank you so much :-)
Hi Shay,
There are two ways to work confidence. From the outside in, and from the inside out. My advice do both.
My first suggestion is go spice up your wardrobe. You worked hard to get that weight off, so flaunt your stuff honey. Be proud of your body. Believe that you are beautiful. If you feel good about what you're rockin on the outside you will begin to feel better on the inside. Still be you, but take some risks with your clothes. Try a splash of color. Take a friend or family member with you who you trust to help you find some things that look good on you.
Get you hair done, and treat yourself to getting your nails done. Buy a new mirror. It can be a small one, nothing expensive.
Once you are all dolled up, I want you to look into that mirror. The new mirror represents a new reflection of how you will look at yourself. Now instead of focusing on what you don't like, I want you to be brave and begin focusing on what you like in that mirror.
I also want you to get involved in helping others. Volunteer. The joy of helping others will make you even more happy.
As for looking for a guy, its not time for you yet. I want you to focus on building up your self confidence before you think about a relationship. If you get into a relationship right now with low self esteem you are not going to get anything out of it. Once you have built up your esteem then you can begin thinking about a guy, but not before.
All The Best,
Chauntel
www.askchauntel.com
askchauntel@gmail.com
Hi Chauntel,
I used to be really overweight, all the way from when I was a toddler, until about a year ago. I've lost a lot of weight, and although I still have a bit of a way to go,I look so much better than I did before. Due to my previous weight, my confidence level has gone down, so much that there was a period of time where I hated lookinginto mirrors, and I used to tell myself negative things that would happen to me. I can say that I no longer do so, but my confidence level has never come back, I am going to be starting Sixth Form in September and I really want to make new friends, and be able to meet new people, in any given situations. I am very nervous around boys, as I still feel I am the size I was, and I feelthat I am not worth a boy talking to me. I just want to know any help that you could give me, in regard to being more confident around boys and in myself.Thank you so much :-)
Hi Shay,
There are two ways to work confidence. From the outside in, and from the inside out. My advice do both.
My first suggestion is go spice up your wardrobe. You worked hard to get that weight off, so flaunt your stuff honey. Be proud of your body. Believe that you are beautiful. If you feel good about what you're rockin on the outside you will begin to feel better on the inside. Still be you, but take some risks with your clothes. Try a splash of color. Take a friend or family member with you who you trust to help you find some things that look good on you.
Get you hair done, and treat yourself to getting your nails done. Buy a new mirror. It can be a small one, nothing expensive.
Once you are all dolled up, I want you to look into that mirror. The new mirror represents a new reflection of how you will look at yourself. Now instead of focusing on what you don't like, I want you to be brave and begin focusing on what you like in that mirror.
I also want you to get involved in helping others. Volunteer. The joy of helping others will make you even more happy.
As for looking for a guy, its not time for you yet. I want you to focus on building up your self confidence before you think about a relationship. If you get into a relationship right now with low self esteem you are not going to get anything out of it. Once you have built up your esteem then you can begin thinking about a guy, but not before.
All The Best,
Chauntel
www.askchauntel.com
askchauntel@gmail.com
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
How to Get Him to Ask Me Out?
23-year-old Kathy writes:
Hey Chauntel,Recently I've been thinking that this guy is interested in me but I just can't be certain. We've been friends for about three years now and in the last few months our relationship has really intensified. We spend a lot more alone time together and then there are all the little things. When we're with a group of people he always sits next to me. He says things like he loves my laugh. Plus, our mutual guy friends are starting to make jokes about the two of us as a couple. I believe in the guy pursuing the girl but hints have been dropped since October/November. How do I get him to talk it out? I haven't been in a relationship for years and I really just want to do things right. If I'm reading the signals right at all. Thanks.
Hi Kathy,
From the information that you have given me, I cannot be confident in saying that he likes you. However, it seems that it is too soon to tell. However, you have to keep in mind that if a guy is interested he will make that aparent. He maybe on the slowful side with expressing himself.
I am in total agreeance with you, you should let him pursue you. However, you can flirt alittle and see how he reacts. It seems your stuck in the friend zone. Watch this video. It should help:
All The Best,
Chauntel
www.askchauntel.coma
askchauntel@gmail.com
Hey Chauntel,Recently I've been thinking that this guy is interested in me but I just can't be certain. We've been friends for about three years now and in the last few months our relationship has really intensified. We spend a lot more alone time together and then there are all the little things. When we're with a group of people he always sits next to me. He says things like he loves my laugh. Plus, our mutual guy friends are starting to make jokes about the two of us as a couple. I believe in the guy pursuing the girl but hints have been dropped since October/November. How do I get him to talk it out? I haven't been in a relationship for years and I really just want to do things right. If I'm reading the signals right at all. Thanks.
Hi Kathy,
From the information that you have given me, I cannot be confident in saying that he likes you. However, it seems that it is too soon to tell. However, you have to keep in mind that if a guy is interested he will make that aparent. He maybe on the slowful side with expressing himself.
I am in total agreeance with you, you should let him pursue you. However, you can flirt alittle and see how he reacts. It seems your stuck in the friend zone. Watch this video. It should help:
All The Best,
Chauntel
www.askchauntel.coma
askchauntel@gmail.com
Ask Chauntel Diary Entry- Wisdom Teeth Extraction
Hello Loves!
So I had my wisdom teeth pulled out last Friday! Ouch! Yikes! And all that jazz.
I am all stitched up ): So not fun.
My life is talking so it has been very difficult not to talk. My friends are getting a kick out of it though. I am still very sore, swelling, and in pain. At least I don't look like a chipmunk anymore.
That is the good news. The bad news is I don't know when I will feel well enough to do a video again, so I will be using my blog more frequently. I am feeling much better though.
I learned that pain killers are more like drugs omg....they are so strong, and not always in a good way haha. So I am finally in my last semester of school. That is exciting.
Currently looking for an internship so if you know of something interesting comment below. Hey you can just comment in general.
Lots of Love!
Chauntel
So I had my wisdom teeth pulled out last Friday! Ouch! Yikes! And all that jazz.
I am all stitched up ): So not fun.
My life is talking so it has been very difficult not to talk. My friends are getting a kick out of it though. I am still very sore, swelling, and in pain. At least I don't look like a chipmunk anymore.
That is the good news. The bad news is I don't know when I will feel well enough to do a video again, so I will be using my blog more frequently. I am feeling much better though.
I learned that pain killers are more like drugs omg....they are so strong, and not always in a good way haha. So I am finally in my last semester of school. That is exciting.
Currently looking for an internship so if you know of something interesting comment below. Hey you can just comment in general.
Lots of Love!
Chauntel
Friday, January 21, 2011
How to Ask Him Out
13-year-old Harriet writes:
Hey Chauntel !
first you are amazing but I have a question. i have a HUGE crush on a guy that is in the same class as I am , I would like to ask him idk how you say it in English but i mean ask him do yu want to be in a realationship with me ? in Dutch we say : aanvragen
so yeah how where and when do I ask him ?
You need to know that I only see him in school he likes me and almost everywhere there are pp in my school the only thing I could do is ask him to stay on the 2nd floor and when everybody is gone i'll ask him ?
please help me out! thx xoxo
Hello Harriet,
It is best that you let him ask you to be in a relationtionship. Let him be the man. Just get to know him and flirt a bit to let him know that you are interested. He will do the rest!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
askchauntel@gmail.com
www.askchauntel.com
Hey Chauntel !
first you are amazing but I have a question. i have a HUGE crush on a guy that is in the same class as I am , I would like to ask him idk how you say it in English but i mean ask him do yu want to be in a realationship with me ? in Dutch we say : aanvragen
so yeah how where and when do I ask him ?
You need to know that I only see him in school he likes me and almost everywhere there are pp in my school the only thing I could do is ask him to stay on the 2nd floor and when everybody is gone i'll ask him ?
please help me out! thx xoxo
Hello Harriet,
It is best that you let him ask you to be in a relationtionship. Let him be the man. Just get to know him and flirt a bit to let him know that you are interested. He will do the rest!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
askchauntel@gmail.com
www.askchauntel.com
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
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