How Do I Get Her to Like Me?

Shy Guy from Indiana writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I would like your advice on how to talk to a girl that I know, but she knows I like her and she has a boyfriend. She pays some attention to me and it seems that she somewhat likes me, but I want to know how to make her mine.

Hi Shy Guy,

If she has a boyfriend you need to respect her relationship. If you don't you will be seen as inappropriate and somewhat of an annoyance to her. I made a video on this topic. 

Here is the Video:

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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He is No Good for Me...Now What?

Jasmine writes:

Hi Chauntel,
I know this guy right.... we have been talking for about 4 years. We haven't been dating that whole time, we dated 2 or 3 times out of the four years. Now, the first time we dated, i was extremely young and I was not really aware of how a boyfriend should be and what not but now I am older and mature enough to know what I want in a man and he is not it! I think he wants us to be together but I don't think he's right for me anymore. I loved him a lot at one point but I don't feel like that anymore. I can't really explain it but I just know he's not right for me(gut feeling) and he wants to know what it is about him that I don't like. I have told him several things about him that I had a problem with and it's like he forgets what I say right after I say it. One thing I don't like about him is that he points out every little flaw I have.( He'll tell me I need a perm, he'll tell me I'm chubby, he told me I had a lisp, which I know now i do because he pointed it out) I think that a guy shouldn't do that no matter how obvious it is.He makes me more mad than happy. Sometimes he's just annoys the hell out of me.We still talk today but I get mad over silly stuff and then I can't really explain why I'm mad at him. Sometimes I just wish he would leave me alone because then it would be a lot easier that way. He calls me crazy but that's how he makes me feel and not a good crazy either. I guess I just want to know how would you analyze the situation?

Hi Jasmine,

If the guy is not good for you and you know that you have to walk away from the situation. It is good that he is honest with you. However, it seems as though he crosses the line.

He should not make you feel insecure about yourself. Your man is suppose to make you feel beautiful.

By allowing this to continue you are just prolonging the inevitable, and this is just going to get harder and harder to let go. What you are experiencing right now is a mental hold that he has on you because of your history and build up of feelings for each other.

You have to put feelings aside, and this time think with your head, not your heart, and move into a new direction. Sorry but this is just not working out for you gal....that is my analysis.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel
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He Said No to the Dance

Daisy writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I have a major crush on this guy i go to school with friday was the first school dance and after words i had a friend ask him out for me and apparently he said no "flatly" but i dont know if he thought she ment to go out with her but ive been really mislead because before i asked him i kept on catching him starring at me quite a bit and i really just dont know what to do...


Hi Daisy,

Miscommunication always causes confusion in relationships. The best thing to do at this point is let the dance go. Build a friendship with him and see what happens from there.

I know it can be a little scary to go out on a limb and ask a guy out, which is why you had your friend do it. But in the future you should do the talking. Chat with him yourself. This avoids uncessary confusion.

I Hope This Help!

Chauntel
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Ask Chauntel Diary- Daddy in the Hospital

Hello Everyone,

I have been MIA this week because my dad is in the hospital. It has been a rough road, but God is able and willing to heal. Be back with more for you soon.

I appreciate you and thanks for your support.

Hugs and Kisses,

Chauntel

Christian and Catholic Woman and a Man Who Doesn't Believe

17-year-old Diana from Virginia writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I seen all your videos in youtube and I really like them. I am in high school is my last year am a senior. I have been in a little long distance relationship with my boyfriend for the pass 2 years now and I have a little problem he is 18 years old. I am catholic will both catholic and Christian because some of my family are Christian. Yes I believe in god. My problem is that my boyfriend use to think negative lots of times and then he went back to Christianity and asepted god which am really happy and glad. But he is changing a little bit. But when he's with me he is sweet and sometimes when he is at his home he is like his attitude changes alittle. But I love that he protects me loves my mom and always is there for me when I need him. I would like to know what I might be doing wrong. 

Hi Diana,

Here is the hard cold truth. The Bible says that you are to be hot or cold or you will be spewed out of the mouth of God. What does this really mean?

It means that, God despises lukewarm. There is a reason for this. Nobody wants to be with anybody who is wishy-washy. Do you know why? It is because it will bring you down. It will cause unecssary drama that you do not need in your life.

This guy is not someone who is stable minded. There is a few verses in the book of Romans Chapter 8 that talk about a double-minded man. I encourage you to read that entire chapter. It is very, very informative.

The bottom line is, he needs to be strong within his faith if he is to be with you. If you are partnered with a man who is tobsy-tervy he is going to take you off of your path. You will end up resenting him in the future, and it won't work.

You can try to encourage him to seek God, but he has to want for himself.

So, you have to let him grow, and if you guys are ever on the same level in God then you can try again. I don't reccommend that you stay in this relationship; you will only be disappointed.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel
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I am 14 With Acne and I Like a Boy

14-year--old Elise writes:

Hi Chauntel !

I like this guy who is awesomely hot for me but not for my friends. Ive liked him for about 2 years now.

The thing is all my friends think he likes me and I think so too.
But I am not sure. So my first question is : How to make sure he likes me ?
The only problem is Im ugly !

I have pretty eyes, a nice body and my face is ok The only thing is I have quite a lot of acne mostly on my chin and forehead which makes me quite ugly !

So my second question is : would he not date/like me because Im ugly even though i am a good person !

Thank you so much in advNce !
ElisePs : ur so pretty and i love ur videos.

Hi Elise,

Everyone, and I mean everyone has a flaw that makes them feel insecure. The reality is that no one was created to be perfect, and everyone is striving for perfection.

You must be who you are, and find someone who will appreciate that. If they do not, then they are not right for you. 

As for this guy, I am not sure if he likes you or not, because you did not give me enough information to determine that. However, based on what you have said, it doesn't seem like he knows you enough to like you.

I therefore reccomond that you build a relationship with him and go from there. I also highly reccomend that you spend some time getting to know who you are and loving that person, because if you are down on yourself he will not be attracted to you. Men are attracted to confidence just as much as women are. 

And thanks for the beautiful compliments. I am sure that you are just as beautiful outside as you are inside, and I know that acne can be a rough thing to deal with. Keep in mind, that it is only for a season.

Also, if you haven't seen this video, you need to watch it:

Be Blessed Lady!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel
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How do I focus on One Woman?

Hello Korsa,

I decided to continue answering your question here since the video was cut off in the editing process.

I will continue where I left off.

You really need to focus on what you want. At 36 years old it is time to set a path for yourself. You should align your personal and professional goals. It is time to be serious about your dating life. 

The next women that you date should be for finding a wife, a companion, otherwise you will get caught up in this cycle and continue until these women look down on you, or chose not to take you seriously.

It is time to find out who you are and move forward!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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