Saturday, September 18, 2010

How do I ask out my coworker?

21-year-old Joe from Nevada writes:

Hey I have a Question, so there is this girl that I work with and I've had a crush on her ever since I started working there for about over a year, she doesn't know that I have a crush on her, I haven't told her or anyone of my co-workers, so how should I go about telling her how I feel about her and asking her out. I also hardly talk to her becasue I never know what to say and start a conversation, I am a very shy person, so it is difficult for me to do so. Can You Please Help Me? Thank You.

Hello Joe,

The best way to begin a relationship is through friendship. You can approach her and say something as simple as, "Hey, I am Joe. I have seen you around, but I really haven't gotten a chance to know you. How do you like it here?" Continue the conversation and end with "It was really great talking to you. I would like to get to know you better. Do you want to go out for coffee/ice cream sometime?" Wait for an answer. Then ask for the the number!

I Hope This Helps!


1 comment:

  1. I think you gave great advice. Just to add another view, I would also advise Joe to examine the pros and cons of a workplace relationship. I would defintely go the friendship route intially, perhaps even holding off on asking for her number for a short while. That way, he has time to learn how the co-worker feels about workplace relationships, whether she is already in a relationship, and the company's stance on workplace relationships. Joe would do great to understand that once he asks for the digits, he has forever changed the dynamics of his work environment. For better of for worse..