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Wednesday, June 5, 2013
Does he like me? – Dating Advice – Ask Chauntel
Anna writes:
Hi Chauntel,
Okay so there’s this guy at work and my brother also works there and he randomly told the guy that I liked him.. After that he kinda started teasing me copying what I say, spraying water at me, calling me names but he’s always smiling he seems to joke with every body but when we are alone he will start telling me information that I didn’t ask for like him and his girlfriend broke up and why. I added him on Facebook and he started teasing me on there a little bit and the next time we were at work he made a comment like “what are you stocking me now you added me on Facebook” he was laughing when he said it.. So my question is do you think he likes me I’m starting to really like me but I don’t want to waste my time on another person who doesn’t like me every one at work seems to think we like each other and the guy keeps asking if my brother and mom age still making jokes about people thinking we like each other so do you think he might like me or if he’s just joking around to make the time go by faster and should I make a move or let him make the next move.
Hi Anna,
It seems like he is interested in you. Guys don’t spend time talking to girls and being playful when they don’t have any interest in them.
As far as you waisting your time, you work with the guy so I doubt talking to him is such a waste of time. From the information that you have provided, I cannot confirm or deny if he likes you. However, I do encourage you to explore this more.
There is no harm in making time outside of work to hang out. That will give you a better feel for what is going on between the two of you. He could either be playfully flirting with you, or he could just be a funny guy who likes to play around often.
Please keep in mind that dating this guy could get really gummy. One, he seems to have a relationship with your brother. If you guys break-up and he and your brother are still friends that could be awkward. Also, you work together, and I am weary of matching business with pleasure. If it doesn’t work out between the two of you, you will still have to see him at work. It’s totally your call on if you want to take the risk of dating this guy and it being awkward on the chance that it doesn’t work out because of your ties to each other.
The best thing to do in this situation is spend some time getting to know him before you choose to leap right into a relationship with him that you didn’t really want but were just curious about.
Take this thing slow, and choose wisely.
I Hope That Helps!
Chauntel
askchauntel@gmail.com
Saturday, June 1, 2013
Sunday, May 26, 2013
How to Not be a Rebound - Ask Chauntel
Terrance writes:
Dear Chauntel,
Ok so I started dating this girl right after she broke up with ger BF of two years, we've been going together for a month and I fell in love with her, I dont want to get hurt, what to do...
Hi Terrance,
Coming into a new relationship with someone when they have just come out of one can be difficult.
It takes a lot of patience on your part because you have to be understanding of what she is feeling. Beyond that you must also be aware that she may or may not be in the best emotional state to be receiving a relationship.
With all that in mind how can you ensure that you don't get hurt and don't end up a rebound? You cannot. However, you can take these precautions.
If you feel that the person that you are in the relationship is not ready for commitment, don't try to pressure them into it. Guard your heart as much as you can while you wait it out. It will be easy for them to throw themselves into their new relationship and ignore what they are feeling from their past relationship. It is up to you to be aware of that, and take things slow.
Don't rush into anything serious until you are confident that they have left their last relationship in the past. If you build a friendship with your lover slowly you will be in tune with what they are feeling. When you feel that you
are both on the same level of thinking and feeling then the two of you can slowly start moving into a more committed relationship, but not before.
are both on the same level of thinking and feeling then the two of you can slowly start moving into a more committed relationship, but not before.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
Send your questions to askchauntel@gmail.com
www.askchauntel.com
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Is He Too Busy for Me? - Ask Chauntel
Hi Chauntel,
We talked everyday over Facebook for like 2 in a half months. For a few weeks he's now too busy. He has work, school, boxing. I'm understanding about it to a certain extent. I'm a Scorpio so I told him I demand attention before we got involved. Which is true! That's my nature, I told him how I felt and he feels strongly about me too so he says. He just said that everything else comes first. So in my head this is how I perceive our situation.
3 months ago.Him: Hey, your really pretty. So I'm going to give you all my time, I'm going to have long conversations. I'm going to compliment you and give you millions of you cute nicknames without coming across as an ***. You'll like me cause I'll reply back multiple times in a day and we'll have fun conversations.
Me: AwwwHim: I'm mainly doing this cause nothing's going on in my life. When something happens I'll slowly stop telling you things. And because we were never official and this is a long distance thing we can just be friends. But I still like you! It's just something grabbed my attention more than you're doing now. So just be happy that we're talking there's no rush.Me: Okay, so I was just the latest toy on the shelf. You have new ones that you like better but don't want to throw me away due to sentimental value, however you're going to leave me on here to rot?This is how I perceive everything. He's an amazing guy, the best I've ever encountered but he doesn't even reply back in the same day, sometimes 2 days. He says I'm being obsessive which I can be and was being lately do to the fact I feel like he's ignoring me. He says he's not, that he's just busy.
Me: AwwwHim: I'm mainly doing this cause nothing's going on in my life. When something happens I'll slowly stop telling you things. And because we were never official and this is a long distance thing we can just be friends. But I still like you! It's just something grabbed my attention more than you're doing now. So just be happy that we're talking there's no rush.Me: Okay, so I was just the latest toy on the shelf. You have new ones that you like better but don't want to throw me away due to sentimental value, however you're going to leave me on here to rot?This is how I perceive everything. He's an amazing guy, the best I've ever encountered but he doesn't even reply back in the same day, sometimes 2 days. He says I'm being obsessive which I can be and was being lately do to the fact I feel like he's ignoring me. He says he's not, that he's just busy.
I don't know what to do. I feel like we're in a relationship without being in a relationship. I want to end it but then I don't because he is so amazing. I just feel like if your life was so busy and you knew how I felt/was (I was very straight forward in the beginning) why would you even continue to speak to me. I know he has a life, I don't want all his time. I just want to know his life because there is still so much we don't know about each other. Also I don't want to just give up when things don't work, life isn't about taking the easy route. But I'm considering moving on, without telling him. Like keeping my options open, talking to other guys, finding myself. Just having fun, cause he's obviously too busy with his life. What should I do?
Hey Love,
Well....The guy is busy and that is a good thing. That means he has a passion about something. Give him time. Don't pressure him too much. The point is that he is including you and that matters.
It may not be all you want, but as long as he is giving you time and making you feel appreciated that is all you can ask for.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
www.askchauntel.com
How to Not be a Rebound – Ask Chauntel
Terrance writes:
Dear Chauntel,
Ok so I started dating this girl right after she broke up with ger BF of two years, we’ve been going together for a month and I fell in love with her, I dont want to get hurt, what to do…
Hi Terrance,
Coming into a new relationship with someone when they have just come out of one can be difficult.
It takes a lot of patience on your part because you have to be understanding of what she is feeling. Beyond that you must also be aware that she may or may not be in the best emotional state to be receiving a relationship.
With all that in mind how can you ensure that you don’t get hurt and don’t end up a rebound? You cannot.However, you can take these precautions.
If you feel that the person that you are in the relationship is not ready for commitment, don’t try to pressure them into it. Guard your heart as much as you can while you wait it out. It will be easy for them to throw themselves into their new relationship and ignore what they are feeling from their past relationship. It is up to you to be aware of that, and take things slow.
Don’t rush into anything serious until you are confident that they have left their last relationship in the past. If you build a friendship with your lover slowly you will be in tune with what they are feeling. When you feel that you
are both on the same level of thinking and feeling then the two of you can slowly start moving into a more committed relationship, but not before.
are both on the same level of thinking and feeling then the two of you can slowly start moving into a more committed relationship, but not before.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
Send your questions to askchauntel@gmail.com
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