Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Does She Want to Get Back Together?

20 -year-old Reg from South Carolina writes:

Does she want to get back together? Itz kinda hard to tell...

My GF and I met at a party while we were still in highschool during our senior year ('07 and we went to seperate schools) Couple months later prom came and we went together. About two or three months later, we decided to have a relationship. (Sometime in June) When October came around, she broke up with me saying she needed to cocentrate more on school. That and the fact that the college she goes to was 3 hrs. away. (yea, I was upset, but meh) Fast frorward to about the end of '08 and the beginning of '09, and she would call me sometimes asking me for advice and stuff. During this time she told me that she found out her current BF at the time had cheated on her. They are no longer together. My question to you is, is this a sign that she may want to get back together? (the frequent calls) I mean, there are no bad feelings between us and we got along just fine it's just that I don't want a repeat of what happened earlier. What do you think?

Hello Reg!

This is what I think is going on:

Yes, I believe that there is a possibility that she wants to get back with you.

If she isn’t alluding to getting back together, I wouldn’t assume that she is ready. Listen to her phrases, and try to get a better understanding of WHY she says what she does. Is she trying to hint that she is interested in you again, or is she trying to find a way to make her last relationship work again with your advice?? This is a question you need to ask yourself.

I know it may seem ludicrous that she might want this guy back, but she probably does.

More likely than not, she is coming to you with her problems because you all have so much history together. Therefore, she is comfortable with telling you things she may not be comfortable sharing with others. In that since you are there for her, and she trusts you. She may be taking advantage of that at this point.

My advice to you would be to wait it out whether or not she is trying to get back with you, because it is obvious she is not ready yet.

BUT if I where you I would try to move on. Long Distance relationships can work, but you need a lot of strength in your relationship for that. I don’t know that you all have that right now.


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