6th Grade Love

6th Grade Gwen writes:

Dear Ask Chauntel,

Theres this guy in my class and sometimes I feel like hes staring at me. For example: Once when I said I didn't feel like playing soccer he said, "but I thought you liked Football" in a very soft voice. And sometimes in class I catch him staring at me but I am never sure if it was me or someone else. 

Next is that when I was dating his best friend (in the past) he was really cold to me but before that he was nice and now hes nice to me again. How do I know if he likes me and from the information does he like? Hes a shy guy by the way.

Hello Gwen!

When a guy pays extra special attention to you it usually means that he is interested. However, you have to give this situation a little more time. From the information that you have provided, we cannot properly conclude that he likes you. Give it sometimes. As far as how he acts around his friend, it just his immaturaty. You don't want to get you heart set on it just yet. Just give it sometime. You are still very young.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel 
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Summer Love

by Ask Chauntel

Summertime is approaching, and we all know what that means! Summer Love!

What is it about the summer time that gets people going? Is it the calming summer breeze after a hot day that blows your hair back around your neck? Is it the inspiration all of the pretty spring flowers that have just bloomed that makes you want to hold onto something beautiful and new. Maybe it’s simply the ever longing for someone to spend your newfound free time with.

During the springtime the flowers bloom, the birds sing, and the world’s beauty is at it’s finest. The spring season captures a quick preview of what the summer has to offer, and the emotion of love is explored.

Young Love happens at a rapid pace in the summer. New and innocent relationships have time to develop as a result of more available time and new surroundings.

The nature of summer love breeds the phenomenon of the Summer Fling. The Summer Fling is initiated with school ending, vacation beginning, an exciting new summer job, exploring new hobbies, and even the sweet taste of fresh fruit on your tongue. The Summer Fling subsides when reality sets in, people leave for college, school is back in session, the work season is vibrant, vacation ends, and its time to go back home. Summer Flings end when reality sets in, the head begins to lead the heart instead of the heart leading the head.

Relationships begin with attraction, but attraction alone cannot sustain the relationship. From attraction, we feel butterflies, which are little balls of emotion that gather in our belly and make us smile. This smile is maintained through building a relationship. Although, summer love may aid to the onset of these positive emotions, the summer fling may end as a result of reality setting in.

Summer Romance movies, full of romantic comedies are on their way! I am such a sap, and love the summer chick flicks! It’s time to get my cute little summer dresses out!

So what can you do to capture some summer lovin’? You have to look the part, and you must give yourself an opportunity to meet and greet. The summer wardrobe initiates attraction. Confidence is key!

For you fellas’ here is a tip, girls like a men who can dress well, and ladies, men like women in high heels with a soft fragrant smell.

This is the time where body image is of utmost importance. You have to get your body “beach-ready.” Summer time means heat, and that means people are going to be exploring new ways to wear less clothes. We are folding up our pants and long sleeve shirts and pulling out our flirty summer dresses and cute shorts.

However, be careful with how much skin you show! You only want to show enough skin to make a statement, but you don’t want too much of the “goods” showing and make the wrong impression.

Summer weddings are on their way! We usually associate the sun with happiness, and a dark gloomy day with sadness. Many wait for the summer to have their weddings to avoid the rain, and a gloomy day. Many chose to celebrate their summer love with the power of a beautiful blue sky and precious white clouds overhead.

Summer barbeques, hobbies, weddings, and jobs are all new opportunities to meet new and exciting people.

I encourages you to: Be Classy Sassy and Chic this summer! Her are some tips:

Women’s Summer 2012 fashion trends:

• Head-to-Toe Prints- vogue.com
• Chunky Bangles- vogue.com
• Cropped tops- topfashionsites.net- “make sure your tummy looks perfect”
• Hot Pants- topfashionsites.net- high or low waisted
• Boat Neck- “show off your shoulders”
• Lace Dresses- be careful not to look grandma-ish thou, keep it vintage and cute
• Cheerful Color Blocking- glamour.com
• Super Bold Prints-glamour.com
• Color Guide: Oranges and Tangerines, Pink Short Suits, Pastel Shades, Colorful Camo-glamour.com

Men’s Summer 2012 fashion trends (fashionbeans.com):

• Printed accessories
• Short suites
• Pastel colors
• Colored shoes
• Tassel loafers
• Safari jackets
• Camouflage
• Neck ties
• Color Guide: prints, blues, greys

Be Blessed!

Chauntel

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Blog Talk Radio Tonight- Topic Summer Love

Hey Guys!

Tonight, May 24, 2012, I will be doing a Radio Segment, on BlogTalkRadio on the topic Summer Love!

Here is the show description: Chauntel talks about what to expect from the summer love season. Love is coming. It is time to get prepared!

Tune in at 9:30pm, CA time.

I will be taking calls with your questions so have your questions ready!

Here is the link to the show!: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askchauntel

Listen to internet radio with askchauntel on Blog Talk Radio

Lot's of Love!

Chauntel

How Do I Talk To Beautiful Women?

Kevin writes: 

Hi Chauntel,

I'm a very handsome Black guy I'm  a good guy but Im sometimes shy depending on my environment or how I feel. I have more friends that are guys more than females . I want to change that .

(My first question ) is how can surround myself with beautiful women . How can I bond or have a friendship with several of beautiful women . Who I want to be friends with or in a relationship with .

( Second question) how  can I get a women who I'm attracted to emotionally invest in me . Whether it may be through friendship or in a relationship.

I'm in college Ive approached a few women here and there . Got numbers . But there's really haven't been a meet up with women who I'm attracted to so yeah .

(Three question) How  can I bond with beautiful women I want to establish a friendship with or a relationship with ?

(Fourth question) How can I talk to beautiful women that I want to know and not run out of things to Say ?

I'm mean I very handsome guy and I dress like I'm a guy coming off a run way . I've been like the guy who relied to much on my looks and I've just been sort lazy at first . But I starting to realize that women don't really care to much about a good men have good looks but more about personality . Which is different for the majority of men . We tend to focus on how beautiful a women outer appearance is first rather than her personality .

It's really bugged me because this questions been on my mind lately and know one really seem to have the answers . Haha hopefully you know .

And yeah it been bugging me because lately when I go out I I read your profile info and you seem really chill . I would like to know you . I. noticed  that most beautiful women today in society are going out  hideous/ ugly guys . Or should i say take by most of them . Who look nothing as good  close to how I look . Whim its ludicrous I don't understand . I don't know if you noticed this as well. but it really been driving me over the edge . But yeah . It is handsome guys that are suppose to lead not the ugly ones . At least that how I perceive it to be . But yeah .

Hi Kevin,

Girls are not attracted to men solely on either their looks or their personality. Usually, it's a little of both, If a women is not attracted to you physically she will not be able to pursue a romantic relationship with you. 

However, having looks alone does not suffice. Who you are plays an inaugural  part in if she will be interested in continuing a relationship with you after an initial physical attraction. You have to be able to keep her attention. You have to find a way to relate and conversation with her. 

 Give yourself an opportunity to simply have a pleasant conversation with women around you. 

It doesn't take much to get a woman to talk, but you have to make her feel comfortable doing so. She needs to feel like there is a reason to do so as well. Which means you should entertain her. Make her laugh, compliment her, small gestures like these will encourage her to continue talking to you in the future.

If you make her feel uncomfortable or awkward she will just ignore your phone call after you have secured her number. You are already amidst beautiful women everyday at school, and another way to find women is simply go out and do things. Involve yourself in activities.  You avoid running out of things to say by asking open ended questions. You establish a friendship by conversing, and finding a common interest. It takes time and a little effort. It doesn't happen instanteously, but if you continue cultivating the relationship it will blossom. 

Bottom line.....change your attitude and your approach to women. You make her interested by the way you approach her and how you present yourself. If she sees you as a waste of time, she won't give you the time of day.

You dig?

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I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel 

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Why Men Love Bigger Women!

Hello All of You Beautiful People!

Here is an article that was shared with me from www.topdatingsites.com by Donna Cullen:

http://www.topdatingsites.com/blog/2012/10-reasons-some-men-love-bigger-women/

Enjoy!

Chauntel