How do I dress like a Rocker Chick and Still be a Trendsetter?

Maggs writes:

Heyyy Chauntel,

I saw your fashion video and I agree with a lot of the things but I am a "rocker chick". I dress in the emo/scene/punk/goth/rocker/sk8r/etc. style and I wear A LOT of mini skirts, colourful/bright/graphic tees and patterned tights. I love converse and sk8 shoes and combat boots but I still want to be some what fashionable. Can you gimme advice on this?





















Hello Maggs,

It's all about the accessories you choose.

Add a trendy item to your style. For example although graphic tees are already "in" if you add a scarf with it that will make it trendy.

Mini skirts are in so you are good with that.

Since you like boots. Try more trendy types. For example fringes are in this season. So you could choose boots that have fringes.

Chunky jewelry is also in! If you grab some chunky jewelry and add it to your wardrobe for the summer season!

You don't have to change your style to be trendy. It's all about what accessories you choose to jazz up your wardrobe.
I hope this helps,

Chauntel
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How Do I Get My Dad to Let Me Date?

13-year-old Victoria from California writes:

Hi Chauntel My dad is way over protective and this guy im dating his name is Shinee. and this Wednesday is the last day of school and im scared ill never see him again! because my dad wont let me go out on a date so if you can help. i would really appreciate it!

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Hello Victoria,

So truly you really have to find a way to get to your dad. I'm sure your daddy's little girl so this should not be hard for you (:

Explain to your dad all the reasons why he should let you go out. Don't use the word DATE. That will only scare him away.

Let him know that you are a responsible young lady, and that you understand his rules and regulations. Let him know that you will not overstep your boundaries.

Let him know that you are not looking to have sex with this guy you just like each other. And don't lie to your dad be honest when you say these things. The last thing you want to do is loose your dad's trust.

Let him know how imperative it is for you to begin talking to guys. Let him know you are not looking to get married, but in order to get to know how guys think to keep yourself from getting hurt in the future you need to start learning how guys operate.

Make him feel guilty by saying things like, "But dad you don't trust me? I'm being upfront and honest with you. Please show me that you trust and care about me, I won't let you down."

Make the hang out places and times appropriate for your age, especially when you are talking to your dad about why he should let you go.

For your your age, appropriate places could be a park, coffee shop, ice cream shop, or the mall for instance.

So lay it all out to him as a responsible adult. If dad still doesn't let up, you will just have to wait until he is willing to let you date, and the guy has to understand. Don't give up though keep at it, and eventually good old dad will give you a chance.

I hope this helps,
Chauntel
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How do I Mask My Emotions?

Emotionally Challenged from Reynoldsburg, Ohio writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I need to learn how to mask my emotions. People sometimes say that i look like I'm about to cry, and when I get embarrassed, I blush. I don't like that people always seem to know what i am thinking. Apparently, I have certain facial expressions for everything. It is really annoying, and I need help! Do you have any advice?

Hello Emotionally Challenged,

Embrace your ability to show your emotions. It is much better to express yourself then to keep your emotions hidden all together. There is a beauty in being open and honest, most people are not.

However, I do understand your frustration. This is who you are, but you can do things to make yourself feel more comfortable in these types of social situations.

I would suggest taking yourself out of positions where you will have to expose your emotions.

Before you get emotional walk away, or turn your head. Distract yourself with something instead of giving a reaction. (ie. open your purse and look for something, begin to fix your hair, look at your nails)

Learn to control the facial expressions you use. Practice a "straight face" in the mirror, or simply smile to mask your emotions.

However, honesty is always the best policy and there is nothing wrong with being real about how you feel, so don't worry about it too much.

I hope that helps,
Chauntel
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Perfect Setting for A First Kiss

14-year-old Hopeless Romantic writes:

Hey Chauntel!

I am brainstorming for a novella I am trying to write, and of course, It wouldn't be a romance without a first kiss. I don't mean to be invasive, but I was wondering what you first kiss was like, and what your favorite setting is for a kiss. I tend to lean towards the sweet and funny romantic scenes, but seeing as I haven't had my first kiss yet, I don't really have any personal experiences.

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Hello Hopeless Romantic!

The best place, is more about the best time. Where you are is not as important as how you feel.
However, any outdoor setting or couch setting would be nice. Steer clear from bedrooms though because they could lead to unwanted occurrences.

Romantic settings are of course the beach or anywhere near water. A drive in movie in the car is always cute. Holding hands in the park on a starry night is another great idea. Exotic places, near a fireplace, or even under the doorstep could also work.

I hope that helps,
Chauntel
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My Mom Won't Let Me Date

13-year-old LadyLove from London writes:

I'm not sure if I should ask this guy out anyway but I quite want too just to sort out my feelings, But my mom is always insisting that I can't have one till I'm 16/17 and I want to be able to have a romantic relationship with someone, I mean I'm a straight A student and my room is pin neat!

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Hello LadyLove,

Your best bet here is to talk to your mother. You don't want to sneak behind her back. That creates trust issues, and that is not worth it. You have you whole life to talk to guys. Don't rush it enjoy these few years until then.

I suggest that you begin talking to guys on a dating level without actually dating. This will give you insight into how they think. Which will in turn give you an upper hand on girls who will be clueless as to how guys operate. Most of these girls will consequently get their heart broken at 16. IF your mom won't let you date, then don't date just "talk" to guys.

Trust this way you will be ahead of the game, and avoid a lot of unnecessary drama in couple of years.

Don't rush things, just relax and keep your mom on your good side (: She will come around.

I hope this helps,

Chauntel
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He is Too Young and I Miss Him

15-year-old Ali from New Zealand writes:

Hi Chauntel,

There is this guy i like alot actually but he is 12, i know i shouldnt like guys that are that younger than me! i have tried to forget about him and move on, but he lives near me but he is moving away at the end of the month(im really going to miss him) we are good friends but we do always end up fighting and calling each other names...alot of the time... during the summer we were really close,we talked to each other all day,playing football..etc we would spend much of the night texting each other it was fun i liked it! but when summer ended it all stopped...and i miss it... we also go to the same school he never talks to me at school yet i always see him looking over at me at the lockers he is usually with really pretty girls laughing with them! also i try to forget about him and i keep saying to myself he is too young for me and to move on! i have liked other guys before and gotten over them but i just cant to forget him! its driving me mad..lol it would be great if you could give some guide lines on what to do...thanks

Hello Ali!

Don't worry about the so called "pretty girls" because when a guy really cares about you it doesn't matter who else is around you when he sees you.

As far as your age goes, there are plenty of people together that are years apart so that is normal. However, realize girls mature faster than guys especially as teenagers. Keep in mind that once you turn 18, you don't want to get caught up in this until he is of age.

Ok so the next time he stares at you wave, and see how he reacts. If he waves back then go over to him and start up a conversation.

If you have been friends for so long he should understand that you miss him. Tell him how you feel, because he may be afraid to come forward. However, before you do this prepare yourself for rejection, because he may not feel the same way.

However, you never know unless you ask.

I hope this helps,

Chauntel
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How to Let A Guy Know You're Not Interested & Get Out of The Friend Zone

18-year-old Shannon from New York writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I have two questions.

One is How do I get out of the friend zone? I have a crush on my guy friend. Do guys even classify women like that?

Also, How do I get rid of unwanted attention from men? Is there some way I could deal with the situation that will make it clear to them I'm not interested and be straightforward but not unkind?

Thank you very much.

Hello Shannon,

To Answer Your First Question:

Yes men do classify their women. Ask any guy he will tell you.

To get out out of the friend zone you have to transition into flirting. The way he responds to you will give you a clue on whether or not he is interested. If his body language is receptive then proceed to furthering this into spending time together outside of your normal work/school setting.

Suggest a time you could go out together. Make it casual at first like: "Let's get some Pinkberry or Starbucks one day." See if he responds positively, like "Sure sounds great!" or if he negatively reacts with something like, "Well I'm really kinda busy."

If he seems interested go for it! If not don't worry about it! No skin off your back. You don't look bad, and you can keep it pushin!

If he does seem interested start hangin out with him on your down time. You are a lady so let him take it from there. If he is shy then simply have a conversation with him about it, and if your hang outs ends with a kiss then you have definitely made that transition.

To Answer Your Second Question:

The reality is if you are a pretty woman you will always get unwanted attention from men. You can cut down on the amount of attention you receive from them by the way you dress, and the way you interact with them. If you are very friendly naturally they may take that as flirtatious.

As I have said in my videos, guys don't get hints! Therefore, if you are not interested in the guy you are going to have to come right out and tell him that, but you have the right idea you can be nice about it if he "isn't getting it."

A few key phrases to let him know that you are not interested are:

"I see you as a friend."
"I don't see you in that way, but we can still be cool."
"I am not looking for a relationship right now."
"I value our friendship to heavily to take that next step, so let's stay friends."

So take your pick. Personalize these phrases to make them your own. IF HE STILL DOESN'T GET IT YOU JUST HAVE TO TELL HIM LIKE IT IS GAL, but good for you that you are trying to let him down easy! (:


I hope this helps!

Chauntel
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