Once A Cheater Always a Cheater?

14-year-old Heather writes:

I have a boyfriend who i went with awhile back in like..march and he cheated and i did to..but i loved him and about 3weeks ago we saw each other at a party exchanged numbers as friends and he texted me that night and we talked as friends then a few days later he texted again and we talked about our relationships we were both single and he was like well we should try again even though i know you maynot want to..so i simply said youhave comitment problems and he said not anymore so i thought about it and asked my friends they said i should try and see but i have other friends and they said i shouldnt..so i told him we can try but we have to have rules she we gave each rules so were together but he doesnt have a phone anymore so i only talk to him on the internet untill he gets a new phone but i feel he should call from someones phone and idk if he'll cheat again is it true once a cheater always a cheater?

Hello Heather,

Usually if you cheats once you will cheat again. However, in my opinion if you cheat once, it doesn't necessarily mean that you will absolutely cheat again.

In your case however, it doesn't seem to make since to be back with him until you all can both talk on the phone and have a relationship. You are only 14 now. The best thing to do in this situation is continue being friends with him and get to know him better for yourself.

Ultimately, you will have to make the decision if he is right for you. That will take getting to know him better. Take this time to build a frienship. That will make for a better relationship in the future if it is meant!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel
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