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He Wants Me to Move in With Him

18-year-old Bally from the UK writes:

Chauntel,

I need some advice its about guyswell im seeing somebody he says its serious tellin me to move in with himtells me he loves but when he sets a day 2 c me he cancels he done it many times considering he does work but he done it the other day but he never returned my calls or replyed 2 my texts its been a whole day i feel like i have to leave him but its so hard dont kno what 2 do with myself xxx :)He says he wants to be serious. been with him 6 months known 4 longer than that.

Hello Bally,

Relationships do not get easier, they get harder. If he is already pressuring you and it has only been a few months imagine how your life will be a few years from now. You are young, fresh, and vibrant! He is already showing signs of flakey, not good. Flakey behavior only gets worse. This is your time to explore and find out who you are and where you want to be in life.

I am all about finding love, but if he was in love he would have asked you to marry him, not to move in with him. Him saying he wants to be serious is just a cop-out. You being there all the time will just make it easier for him. He can have you take care of him, and get what he wants from you physically more often.

I am not buying it. Not yet, it is way too soon. No shacking up, meaning no moving in with a man until you are married. Tell him if he is this serious about you he will wait until he marries you to move in. If he cannot do that then he is just feeding you a line. Don't bite because it might get caught in your lip. Recipe for disaster.

Here is a video I made similar to your question. Watch:





I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel
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How Do I Get Her to Like Me?

Zach from Kentucky writes:

Hello Chauntel,

First of all i have to say i love ur vids i spent over 3 hours watching them and i subbed theres this girl her name is kimberly she is very beautiful and ive liked her for 2 years im a freshman in high school and i need your advice please i really like her shes a girl any guy could love and i certantly am not the greatest looking guy but my friends tell me im more than average im good but not great so i hope i didnt annoy u with such a long message but plz help me out btw if i was your age i would chase after you cause your very smart in your decision making process and you just know how to talk to people my name is zach im white but it doesnt matter cause i certantly am not racist my best friends are cheeks malachi savion and evan see ya.

Hi Zach,

Thank you so much for taking time to watch so many of my videos! That means a lot!

Here is a video that I posted awhile back that is very similar to your question. Watch:

They Joke About My Bra Size

Tensi from the USA writes:

Dear Ask Chauntel,

My name is Tensi and I'm in the 10th grade.I've never had a boyfriend before or kissed a guy. I like this guy but there's a problem. He sits really close to me and i sometimes catch him staring at me. He has this friend and he's always saying how ugly i am and that im a nerd. The guy I like does not say anything back he just listens. One time i was helping this boy and he got all mad at the guy and was saying some crazy stuff. Not that long ago hes friend was telling him how he only likes white girls(I'm black) and he asked him if he did too. He said yea. His fruend why do you keep staring at her she ugly and if you want that I dont know what to tell you. Another time I had a tight shirt on and they was having a argument saying ohh shes a A cup and the guy I like was like no shes a B. Haha. When I see him in the hallway he always stops and seems like he asking people if they know me or something. One time he was walking down the hallway and i was eating lunch on a bench. He started staring at me and i started laughing he looked away and then he looked back again.I do not know what to do should I say something or should I wait on him. This has been going on for months. Do you think he likes me?

Hi Tensi,

No, I don't think he likes you. If a guy likes you he makes that apparent. Guys don't get hints so they don't give hints either. Regardless, this guy is SORRY with a capital S. If he had any wits about him he would have stood up for you. It is time for a new crush. Lets refocus our attention.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel
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My Friend Gets All of the Guys Attention

14-year-old Anonymous from Canada writes:

Dear Chauntel,

First off I want to start by saying I really love your videos and you give great advice.

One of my best friends that goes to school with me is very pretty and I feel like because of that people like her more espiecally boys. Whenever we walk down the hall together people always stare at her and not at me. I don't feel very pretty and confident. I dont know what to do if I should tell her how I feel and how to be confident in myself. During the second week of school at least 5 guys claimed that they liked her or thought she was hot and pretty. I am really frustrated angry and jealous of her. I need your advice I don't know what to do.

Hello Anonymous,

I encourage you to stop worrying about the attention your friend is getting. I want you to refocus your energy on appreciating the beautiful person that God has made you. Beauty can be seen on the outside, but it is what is on the inside that attracts people. Whenever you begin having those negative thoughts about your friend I want you to think about all the reasons that are not physical that make her beautiful. I then want you to think about all the unique and beautiful things that make you, you. Attention from guys will come, and go. It may seem like a very important thing to you right now, but you will soon learn that just because a guy has the hots for you does not mean that he will respect or treat you right. Don't rush this, in due time you will meet a guy who will love in you inside and out. I can assume that you may possibly be feeling this way because you may be seeking attention from your parents that you have been lacking. Not to worry my dear, you are going through puberty. Your body is going through a lot of changes, but this too shall pass!

Watch this video:



I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel
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How to Talk to Women- Conversation Topics- Ask Chauntel

15-year-old Amber from Canada writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I currently like this friend of mine, hes very interesting and artistic we talk alot and i feel that we connect. Some of his friends are also mine as well. I just want to know what can i do for him to share more about him and ask more questions about me as well. BTW ...we also have alot in common as well ....and i love that we do. :D

Hello Amber!

This video should help: